Attitude

The Difference Between Voice and Tone

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What’s the difference between voice and tone? And how do you implement it consistently in your business? Those are common questions I am asked in my marketing workshops. The answer is that voice should remain consistent regardless of the circumstances. For example, Classic Disney has a family-friendly voice no matter the situation. They will not use profanity, nor words like superfluous or highfalutin. It doesn’t fit their brand or their voice. They use words suitable for a young and wholesome audience. That’s voice. Tone is different. We have all heard (or used!) the expression “It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it.” That’s tone. Tone is the way you say something. In person, it’s easier to define tone. It’s a combination of word choice, syntax and intonation. In writing though? Tone becomes harder to manage. The written word is entirely subjective to the reader. So if the reader […]

Squish Negative Thinking With a Simple Child’s Tool

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We all know that sound. The little voice in our heads that questions a word choice, whispers that perhaps the scene isn’t going well, suggests that perhaps this manuscript we’re working on is never going to capture the vision in our heads.Whether it’s a tiny whisper, or a full out scream, every writer I have ever met has encountered these negative thoughts from time to time.But what to do about it?Then I discovered something so simple and so effective, I could almost hear that negative little voice whimpering in neglect. Now, whenever I hear that nagging little voice in my head, questioning or criticizing, I resort to a parenting trick my husband and I use for our toddler.The time out.When done well, a time out for children is not supposed to be a punishment, especially at the young age of two and a half. What it is supposed to be, […]

Be Wary of Your Friends

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I have always been a designer. I just didn’t always know how to knit or sew. But I had a knack for looking at things and seeing the beauty in them that could be made more prominent if only there was a color change here, or a hem change there. I tried learning to sew in my early teens by purchasing a pattern from a local fabric store. I was in a knot of frustration by the end of the weekend. Turns out that I love to create designs, not follow them.  In university, a roommate of mine and I learned to knit through my stepmother. Or rather, she learned to knit and I got frustrated to the point that the wicked stepmother gave up on me. Years later, the same roommate succeeded in teaching me to knit. Then she tried to teach me to follow a pattern.  She too […]

Embrace Jealousy to Achieve Personal Success

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Chase the fear: Some fears are founded. Don’t run full-tilt towards the barrier-free edge of the Cliffs of Mohr and see if you have it in you to stop in time. But when fear of doing something you love (or think you will love) holds you back from trying…this is a different kind of situation. This is what I call a ‘jealousy indicator’.  Basically, it’s that inner voice highlighting those things you want to try or have but have thus far been too afraid, or unaware of, to go after. If you pay attention to it, jealousy can be a great tool, both personally and professionally. It can act as a personal guide pointing out the goals and desires you might not have been aware of. When an author friend of mine was awarded a three-book deal with a big publisher based on her debut novel, jealousy struck. Rather than […]

Use Fiction to Make a Difference – How to Empower Women Through Erotic Fiction

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Do you consciously put positive messages into your character’s dialogue? (i.e. “This was me telling you this is my body. I own it and what happens to it. And I only give it to men who respect it. And you can’t have it.”— Nicole, I Love My Secret)  SL: Yes, I guess I do. I want women to know that their body is theirs—and it’s precious. Even Nicole, who has casual hookups, chooses men who respect her so she can be free with them. She won’t be with a man who doesn’t. Because a man SHOULD respect that you are letting him inside. You. Are. Letting. Him. Inside.  What is the message you want your books to give to your female readership? SL: Some of us have to overcome hurdles. My characters fall in that category. I write about integrity to self and to your friends. I want my female readership to support other women, […]

Write (And Have) Better Erotic Sex and Romantic Happiness

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Want to enjoy sex more? Be a better lover? Let Author Sabrina Lacey and Jessica (the heroine of her series I Love My Healed Heart) show you how. SL: We (women) are so in our heads, until they (the men) get us back into our bodies, if they can. I remember during all of my twenties, during every sexual encounter I had, I was so concerned with if I looked hot, if I was turning him on, if my boobs were too small, if I was squeezing him too hard with my hand, if my belly was sticking out weird, if my feet were too large, etc. etc. etc. When I FINALLY let that all go, I began to revel in my body, to enjoy being sexy. I began to really enjoy sex, then, and the game. So in these books, I am reflecting that very real part of women […]

Mars and Venus In Dialogue

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Men and women view the world differently. They each have such different psychological objectives and barriers. Put together, even the smallest conflict can become a communications disaster. Understanding these differences and how they come into play is key to creating convincing characters and dialogue. The book You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen, Ph.D. gives great insight into the often tumultuous relationship between men and women. Before having friends over to her place for dinner, my friend used to check with her husband to ensure he was okay with it. They both knew it was just out of consideration and he wouldn’t actually object. On the other hand, he would often just invite his pals over without checking with her. Each time it happened, she found it infuriating. Where was his consideration? As women, we typically place our value on egalitarian communication and non-confrontational resolution […]