Attitude

How My Worst Haircut Turned Out To Be A Great Experience

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Every three years, I lop off all my hair and donate it to be turned into a wig for a cancer patient. A few days ago, I did it again. Nine inches of healthy hair snipped off. This hair was then put into an envelope and mailed to a company that will turn it into a wig for someone undergoing chemotherapy.My aunt is currently undergoing chemo and is wearing an array of colourful scarves until the treatment is done. Then she will wear a wig to help her feel more like her usual beautiful self until her own hair grows back in again.I (thankfully) cannot imagine the tremendous feel of not-yourself-ness that goes along with this entire process. After all, we gals tend to identify strongly with our hair. There is a multi-million dollar industry built around it. So while dealing with all the emotional and physical ramifications of cancer, […]

What Stops Women From Being Successful?

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Recently, I watched a video that had gone viral on Facebook. A number of my contacts had shared it and posted their own versions of lol. After I watched it, I wanted to unfriend a number of those women for perpetuating the subliminal message of women as weak—a message they likely didn’t even comprehend.The video in question starts with a very pregnant woman walking onto a busy bus. No seats available. She smiles at the people, who ignore her. She pushes her belly into someone’s face. He ignores her. Then she pulls out an inflatable mallet and bludgeons him until she gets the seat.When I first saw this, I knew the intent was that I should laugh. And I wanted to. Having been a pregnant woman on transit, it’s a far too common sight.But I didn’t laugh. I was offended. Not because of the selfishness of the other passengers but […]

Moving Past Survival

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In times of long gone (for most of us) survival was a daily struggle. We had to hunt food, avoid danger, protect or rediscover shelter, and avoid any threat the elements presented us.Today, most of us in the western world don’t have to face such struggles. We have shelter, food and all our basic needs covered. This is thanks to an elaborate set of social systems set in place to ensure all its citizens have access to the basic needs. This, in theory, should allow us time and energy for other pursuits such as intellectual development, artistic expression or family nurturance.Yet, with the worst of the threats eliminated, we seem to set out to recreate those threats and keep the fight for survival alive.That’s nonsense, you say?Really?I know a woman who earns an excellent income. She could have had her small bungalow paid off years ago, and her child’s university […]

Bribery—An Endorsed Parenting Strategy (How to Survive Kindergarten)

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My son just finished his first day of junior kindergarten. Thanks to the nature of my business, he had been home with me from the day of his birth until now. I had him in social classes like gymnastics and cooking to help him make friends and socialize but otherwise, he had my complete attention.    Kindergarten was the first time where I wasn’t right there. When my husband and I picked him for lunch, he didn’t want to go back—despite the allure of the water table and the blond girl who had already taken a shine to him. So I talked to him and we worked out a deal: If he went to the afternoon portion of kindergarten, we would take him to Mastermind and let him pick out a special toy for being so brave. He agreed, reluctantly. At three o’clock he came flying out the class door […]

How to Save The World in Five Minutes Or Less

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This week, I had to have my annual physical checkup including my least favorite part: blood work.Thankfully, my doctor’s office employs the most talented nurses who are able to stick the needle in without so much as a pinch, every time. I joked with her (only partially joking, truth be told) that she should freelance her services out. I gladly would have paid her whatever she wanted if she had been willing to do all my pregnancy blood work. For anyone who has had a baby, you know that this means you are essentially a pincushion for nine months.Then, she told me something spectacular. She lives in a condo not far from the doctor’s office. This building is home to many seniors who use the doctor’s office where she works. When she knows they need blood work done, she will often stop by in the morning, take their blood in […]

When Understanding People Goes Too Far: A Relationship Survival Guide

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In our information obsessed society we are all hunters of information. We scour social media looking for the next great tip. We read books to lend insights into our business ventures and we look for cues to better understand the other people around us.    The smartest of us will strive to find clues and insights into how to better interpret people’s behaviors and words so we can more safely and successfully maneuver our personal and business relationships.   The expression is to not judge people until we have walked in their shoes. The word judgment means coming to a conclusion after evaluating the available information. So judgment, like understanding, is a form of belief in our insights into another person’s actions, words or motives.   My father is a well-known therapist. He has often said that if you really understand a person you can never truly hate them. If his words are […]

Makeup and Confidence. What Does Your Mascara Say About You?

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I recently entered a debate with a woman who wears a bucket-load of makeup. Her son had once told me that she wears makeup because it makes her pretty. I have always felt badly for her, for having to use artificial substances in that manner. Artificial substances create artificial feelings. Thus, when you are a woman like this, you only feel beautiful when you are caked-up. As entrepreneurs and marketers, we need to be aware of what our image says to other people about us. For women, makeup can be an enhancement, but it can also be to your detriment as well. You cannot proclaim to the world that you are a strong and confident woman when you hide your true self beneath layers of artificiality. Make up—like a mask— conceals the truth of what lies beneath. If you are confident, you don’t need to literally hide your face from […]

When Fiction Inspires Change: How To Face Your Dragon

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Recently I read Khaled Hosseini’s The Kite Runner and as a result faced my own metaphorical dragon. Until this moment I never owned a kite thus I was colorless and stuck on the ground. Stuck with a past I had yet to face. However, that all changed when I took on the dragon. Thirty-eight year old Amir, the main character in the novel, takes on his dragon by returning to his native Afghanistan to face his past. The story uses the kite as a metaphor to describe Amir’s journey; the kite at the beginning of the novel illustrates Amir’s cowardice and his reluctance to confront his fear: The bully Assef. Amir’s past catches up with him as he is reminded that there is “A way to be good again…” and that is to take on Assef—his dragon—and find his redemption, his courage, and his self-worth. Hosseini ends the novel with […]

Fact versus Truth – Do You Know the Difference?

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Fifty Shades of Grey made headlines all over the fiction-reading world as a book, then trilogy, then as a movie. But what’s interesting from a marketing perspective is that depending on who promoted the books, the series was either a sensual fantasy, an erotic romance, or erotica. Same book, different genres and tags.  What many people don’t inherently understand is that there is a difference between fact and truth. Watch what I mean: Sugar is fat free.  Total fact. I swear. Look at the nutrition label on any sugar bag whether white, yellow or brown sugar. Fat free. But wait, don’t go to town on it quite yet. Because the truth is that sugar is also highly caloric and calories turn into fat. So yes, the fact of the matter is that sugar is fat free (yay!) but it is made up of empty calories that very quickly turn into […]

Advice on Writing Fiction Without the “God Crutch”

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How did your social psychology training and your work as an advice columnist affect your novel about a woman forced to endure life’s harshest loss? SKP: As Kylie’s Heel was being written and revised many times over nearly a decade, and as my own non-theistic views became firmer, the focus of the novel evolved a bit. My social psychology training taught me to take account of facts, credible studies, science, and so on, and I wanted to include that focus. Somehow I got the idea of incorporating a Q&A column into the novel, where Kylie could be absolutely direct about her beliefs. I certainly expected that there were enough readers who think like I do, or who would be interested in an unusual novel like this, that a focus on an atheist woman’s struggles would be a positive marketing point. Throughout Kylie’s Heel, you have shown that people can survive great […]