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Gossip Girls – Are you a Queen? Or a Pawn?

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by Karyn ConnorArticle Categories: ,

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Recently, a young woman joined a professional group to which I belong. Soon after joining, she started to ask questions and offer interpretations of other members—otherwise known as gossip.At first, people didn’t seem to notice, but the more questions she asked, and the more information about people she repeated (sometimes with her own spin on it), the more the other members’ began to shy away from her.For me, I stayed away from her as soon as I saw the gossip game in action. I subscribe to Socrates’s method of handling these social situations. Any time someone approaches me either with prying questions, or gossip to share, I pose to them Socrates’ three questions:Is it true? This means to ask if the information has been validated. So if someone is repeating speculation, then you cannot certify that the details are accurate, thus the answer to the question is “no”.Is it kind? […]

Advice to Donald Trump on How to Win the Minority Vote

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by Cat MachtArticle Categories: ,

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It’s no secret that Donald Trump is not pro-minorities. He has been called a bigot and a racist and seems to take no real offence to either title. Most recently, he has been compared to Hitler.This is taking it too far. For all the atrocities that Hitler committed, the man was brilliant. An entire country handed him the power over their welfare, went along with a violent and mad extermination plan, and they loved him. He was a brilliant orator and manipulator.Can we say these things of Donald Trump? Not in any broadcast I have seen.But enough about that. I have a way to fix all Mr. Trump’s election dysfunctions: Ditch the current Mrs. Trump (there is one, right?) and replace her with a minority. Wait a moment though—not just any minority. He needs one who will dry hump the spotlight with great enthusiasm and not worry about values, morals, […]

There are three kinds of intelligence. And three kinds of evil. Here they are.

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by Cat MachtArticle Categories: ,

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There are three kinds of acknowledged intelligence:Intelligence quotient (the factual knowledge a person possesses);Social intelligence (the ability to read others and present oneself in a socially appropriate way); andAnd emotional intelligence (the ability to be self-aware and also aware of others’ emotional reactions).I put forward that there are also three kinds of evil:Factual evil. Using factual untruths (i.e., lies) that reduce a person’s self-worth or ability for personal growth.Social evil. Intentionally making people vulnerable to harm.Emotional evil. Robbing people of opportunities for emotional stability, security or growth.Evil is an aggressive attempt to harm another. That’s my definition. What does this mean? If someone gives me a paper cut, is that evil? No. (Unless it’s like the movie Swimming with Sharks where it was done as a type of torture.) It has to have a long-reaching or permanent negative effect on the targeted person.When someone is a mass murder, it is […]

Liar! Inauthenticity Leads to Loneliness

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by Carrie De SimasArticle Categories: ,

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A friend once told me that she was happy with her body because it was curvy. At the time, I admired her. She was a bit heavy, but had beautiful curves. Not trendy, perhaps, but very sexy.Unfortunately, a few months later she asked me to teach her how to knit because she wanted to keep her hands busy in the evenings. She laughed and said: “Because if my hands are busy, I can’t be snacking!” and she smacked her curvy bum. It turned out that her happy with her body thing was a ruse that she told other people, as she tried to lose weight. As her lies unraveled, her friends disappeared.Another example is of a single mother who is determined to portray her ex-husband as a total douche (her word, not mine). He left her and her drama when their child was two years old. She promised him she […]

When Life Gives You Lemons, Make…Yourself Beautiful

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by Carrie De SimasArticle Categories: ,

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Lemons are one of those fruits that don’t have the same glamorous images as strawberries (dipped in chocolate are a common symbol of love, romance and eroticism), or apples (with all its religious undertones), or grapes (feeding them to the historically powerful), and so on.Lemons? The most common adage is “You look like you just sucked on a lemon” which is never meant as a compliment. But this fruit is stoic and steady. It is powerful and those of us smart enough to have researched natural health and beauty tricks know the quiet power of this yellow fruit.Here are the three reasons why you should learn to love lemons:Detox and physical health. A cup of warm water with half a lemon squeezed into it first thing in the morning (before coffee, snacks or anything else) has amazing health benefits. For this simple tweak to your daily routine you can expect […]

What makes you evil?

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by William TannerArticle Categories: ,

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In today’s chaotic world, there is a lot of emphasis being put on the battle between good and evil. Gone are the primary colored superheroes of the 1980s where Superman gallantly defended the world from evil, and where there were no questions about who was good and who was bad.  In today’s world, it is often harder to tell the good guys from the bad guys. In fiction, it can be even harder to write characters who transcend the two-dimensional limitations of good-guy hero and bad-guy villain. Good guys win and play by the rules. Bad guys do bad things for bad reasons. Right? Not so much. Not in today’s world where heroes often are forced to do bad things for good reasons, making the collection of heroic deeds murkier. For example: you see someone shoot a woman holding her newborn baby in her arms. Killing a mother holding a […]