Attitude

5 Reasons Why You Need to Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life Right Now

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5 Reasons Why You Need to Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life Right NowThey sap your energy. Depressed and angry people generally live in a state of exhaustion and tend to die younger. This is because toxic people don’t tend to have good sleeping or eating habits. They tend to look for quick fixes to feel better which leads them to engage in high-risk behaviors like smoking, drugs, excessive alcohol, splurge shopping, or reckless risk-taking.Toxic people will destroy your other relationships. They take up your time and thoughts. As you struggle to come to terms with whatever they have done or said, you will likely seek the opinions of others, or vent to others. Which is fine if it’s an occasional thing. But toxic people aren’t just having a bad day; they are just bad and often determined to stay that way. As you vent to other people on an […]

Five Reasons Why I Love Smokers

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by James Sorenson Article Categories: ,

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I am not a smoker. Never have been. I tried a cigar once in university during a fancy dinner out at a posh cigar bar and almost hacked up a lung. The cloud in the air, the taste in my mouth, the way the smoke clung to my hair and clothes for the rest of the night…well, that did more to turn me off smoking than any nasty picture on a cigarette box.But other than the obvious reasons of health and environment destroyer, smokers are great. I love them.If you’re a smoker, here are the top five reasons why I love you:I know right away you are weak. Strong people look at problems and try to find solutions. People who can’t handle the stress of individual moments turn to an external source or substance for reassurance or relief. Those who smoke to calm their nerves are people who basically can’t […]

Tell Me About Yourself – 3 Components of Successful Interview Answers

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by Carrie De SimasArticle Categories: ,

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Almost every job interview contains a question about you as a person. What the interviewer wants is to determine if you are compatible with both the position and team at hand.  What an interviewer is looking for with these types of questions is a sign that you are a well-rounded person. They are looking for three indicators: Works well solo Works well as a team member Has a good social life/support network  So how do you show the interviewer that you are the perfect, well-rounded applicant? By picking an example of each of the above and working them into a succinct answer. For example, a teacher friend came to me and asked me to help her figure out an answer to this question for a pending interview. Here are the points we came up with: Knitting designer Volleyball coach Social coordinator for her church These examples weren’t picked at random. […]

How to Grow Older But not Old: Ticking Ageism in Women

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by Carrie De SimasArticle Categories: ,

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I’m about to turn 40. This got me to thinking about when I turned 30. My best friend and I threw a huge birthday party that we gleefully entitled “Second Annual Still 29 Birthday Bash”.  For me, this was all in good humor. Turning 30 didn’t bother me. I’d had numerous friends who were already in their thirties—some even in their forties—and I knew how much fun those decades could be based on their examples. Many of my female friends were not as optimistic. Like me, many of them were still single and had no children. And when that big 3-0 appeared on their birthday calendars, they fell into funks. I have been taught three things about ageing from women who have already been there and done that. Perhaps that is what made the difference a decade ago when many women were drinking and crying and I was drinking and […]

3 Ways to Know Your Book is Ready for Publication

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When you self-publish you make all the decisions about your book including writing, edits, publication timelines and marketing. Everything is your responsibility. We have all heard the tales of writers who took years—sometimes even decades—editing their book, never seeming to know when to move on to the next project.On the other hand, one of the biggest criticisms of the self-publishing world is that too many authors publish too quickly. That is one of the reasons the public libraries have given for their reluctance to carry self-published authors.So, how do you know when your book is ready for publication? Here are three signs you (and your book) are ready:1. The book has been edited or beta tested by people unfamiliar with the story.Find people who haven’t read your book before, nor know much about it. They will be fresh eyes. When they give feedback, look for consistencies in their remarks. For example, […]

When To Delete Someone From Your Social Media Network

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by Carrie De SimasArticle Categories: ,

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Social media has become a vital part of the self-published author’s life. It’s a way to network, self-promote, connect and grow as a professional. As with all relationships, though, there has to be boundaries. So how do you know when to delete someone from your Twitter and LinkedIn accounts? To unfriend them? As an editor, I use my Facebook account as a professional tool. My British blood means that I like to keep my private life private and thus I put very little in terms of personally revealing information on my public platforms. I also have a strict no-BS and no-bad-blood policy for anything associated with my name. This means that I am ruthless when it comes to social gardening, aka plucking out the damaging elements in my online social world. My branding—and that of GoneWithTheWord—is a position of positivity. We look for strengths and celebrate personal and professional positivity. […]

Writing Fundamentals With Andrew Neiderman, aka V.C. Andrews

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He has been called “The Most Successful Ghost Writer in American Literary History.” Andrew Neiderman is the author of more than 40 books in his own name, arguably the most famous of which is The Devil’s Advocate, which was made into a film starring Al Pacino, Keanu Reaves and Charlize Theron. It is almost unbelievable that amidst all the international success of books published in his own name, he has also been the ghostwriter for the V.C. Andrews franchise for more than 25 years. How has he managed to create such successful novels? Neiderman offers three main writing tips for authors: Tip #1: The Premise AN: “I always begin with a what if question…what if this happened; what if that, but the question isn’t enough even though it might be intriguing.” For example, what if someone’s blood held the cure for cancer? And what if a mobster with cancer found out […]