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Are You a Queen or a Pawn?

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by Karyn ConnorArticle Categories: ,

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Recently, a young woman joined a professional group to which I belong. Soon after joining, she started to ask questions and offer interpretations of other members—otherwise known as gossip.At first, people didn’t seem to notice, but the more questions she asked, and the more information about people she repeated (sometimes with her own spin on it), the more the other members’ began to shy away from her.For me, I stayed away from her as soon as I saw the gossip game in action. I subscribe to Socrates’s method of handling these social situations. Any time someone approaches me either with prying questions, or gossip to share, I pose to them Socrates’ three questions:Is it true? This means to ask if the information has been validated. So if someone is repeating speculation, then you cannot certify that the details are accurate, thus the answer to the question is “no”.Is it kind? […]

Black History Month and Other Cons

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February is black history month. How ridiculous is that? Every minority culture wants equality—or so they claim. But a month set aside to celebrate only one culture is racism with a healthy dash of entitlement. If you really want equality then where is white history month? But oh no, whites celebrating whites is racism but blacks or Arabs or Jews or Indians celebrating themselves is cultural pride. Why is that?Black history month started as a week in the middle of February intended to teach the history of American blacks. The date was chosen because it coincided with the birthday of Abraham Lincoln (February 12) and that of Frederick Douglass (February 14).I’m not just picking on ethnic groups. Women are just as stupid. We claim to want equality. Yet, February hosts Valentine’s Day where otherwise independent, strong women suddenly turn into entitled princesses who expect men to buy them roses, chocolate […]

There are three kinds of intelligence. And three kinds of evil. Here they are.

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by Cat MachtArticle Categories: ,

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There are three kinds of acknowledged intelligence:Intelligence quotient (the factual knowledge a person possesses);Social intelligence (the ability to read others and present oneself in a socially appropriate way); andAnd emotional intelligence (the ability to be self-aware and also aware of others’ emotional reactions).I put forward that there are also three kinds of evil:Factual evil. Using factual untruths (i.e., lies) that reduce a person’s self-worth or ability for personal growth.Social evil. Intentionally making people vulnerable to harm.Emotional evil. Robbing people of opportunities for emotional stability, security or growth.Evil is an aggressive attempt to harm another. That’s my definition. What does this mean? If someone gives me a paper cut, is that evil? No. (Unless it’s like the movie Swimming with Sharks where it was done as a type of torture.) It has to have a long-reaching or permanent negative effect on the targeted person.When someone is a mass murder, it is […]

5 Reasons Why You Need to Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life Right Now

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by Karyn ConnorArticle Categories: ,

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5 Reasons Why You Need to Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life Right NowThey sap your energy. Depressed and angry people generally live in a state of exhaustion and tend to die younger. This is because toxic people don’t tend to have good sleeping or eating habits. They tend to look for quick fixes to feel better which leads them to engage in high-risk behaviors like smoking, drugs, excessive alcohol, splurge shopping, or reckless risk-taking.Toxic people will destroy your other relationships. They take up your time and thoughts. As you struggle to come to terms with whatever they have done or said, you will likely seek the opinions of others, or vent to others. Which is fine if it’s an occasional thing. But toxic people aren’t just having a bad day; they are just bad and often determined to stay that way. As you vent to other people on an […]

What Stops Women From Being Successful?

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Recently, I watched a video that had gone viral on Facebook. A number of my contacts had shared it and posted their own versions of lol. After I watched it, I wanted to unfriend a number of those women for perpetuating the subliminal message of women as weak—a message they likely didn’t even comprehend.The video in question starts with a very pregnant woman walking onto a busy bus. No seats available. She smiles at the people, who ignore her. She pushes her belly into someone’s face. He ignores her. Then she pulls out an inflatable mallet and bludgeons him until she gets the seat.When I first saw this, I knew the intent was that I should laugh. And I wanted to. Having been a pregnant woman on transit, it’s a far too common sight.But I didn’t laugh. I was offended. Not because of the selfishness of the other passengers but […]

Five Reasons Why I Love Smokers

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by James Sorenson Article Categories: ,

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I am not a smoker. Never have been. I tried a cigar once in university during a fancy dinner out at a posh cigar bar and almost hacked up a lung. The cloud in the air, the taste in my mouth, the way the smoke clung to my hair and clothes for the rest of the night…well, that did more to turn me off smoking than any nasty picture on a cigarette box.But other than the obvious reasons of health and environment destroyer, smokers are great. I love them.If you’re a smoker, here are the top five reasons why I love you:I know right away you are weak. Strong people look at problems and try to find solutions. People who can’t handle the stress of individual moments turn to an external source or substance for reassurance or relief. Those who smoke to calm their nerves are people who basically can’t […]

Move Past Survival

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by Karyn ConnorArticle Categories: ,

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In times of long gone (for most of us) survival was a daily struggle. We had to hunt food, avoid danger, protect or rediscover shelter, and avoid any threat the elements presented us.Today, most of us in the western world don’t have to face such struggles. We have shelter, food and all our basic needs covered. This is thanks to an elaborate set of social systems set in place to ensure all its citizens have access to the basic needs. This, in theory, should allow us time and energy for other pursuits such as intellectual development, artistic expression or family nurturance.Yet, with the worst of the threats eliminated, we seem to set out to recreate those threats and keep the fight for survival alive.That’s nonsense, you say?Really?I know a woman who earns an excellent income. She could have had her small bungalow paid off years ago, and her child’s university […]

Walking on Sunshine Instead of Dancing in November Rain

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by Rudy DeesArticle Categories: ,

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A cool refreshing glass of ice water… quenches the thirst, cools your pallet and feels invigorating as the cold water splashes down your throat on a hot summer day.This year’s warm November weather allows for us to continue drinking those cold beverages rather than the hot chocolates we used to consume at this time of the year to ward off the November chill. This November weather is far removed from the cold November rain days we have been used to in Novembers past. After all, 2015 has set many record-breaking temperatures and has averaged, to date, to be the warmest year on record.Mainstream and social media outlets continuously reference the warm weather. There are endless selfies of people on patios at lunchtime, eating and drinking as if it were summer still. How many of us have thought about this—I mean really, really thought about it?News media weather journalists refer to El Niño’s, […]

Liar! Inauthenticity Leads to Loneliness

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by Carrie De SimasArticle Categories: ,

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A friend once told me that she was happy with her body because it was curvy. At the time, I admired her. She was a bit heavy, but had beautiful curves. Not trendy, perhaps, but very sexy.Unfortunately, a few months later she asked me to teach her how to knit because she wanted to keep her hands busy in the evenings. She laughed and said: “Because if my hands are busy, I can’t be snacking!” and she smacked her curvy bum. It turned out that her happy with her body thing was a ruse that she told other people, as she tried to lose weight. As her lies unraveled, her friends disappeared.Another example is of a single mother who is determined to portray her ex-husband as a total douche (her word, not mine). He left her and her drama when their child was two years old. She promised him she […]

The World’s Oldest Profession

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by Cat MachtArticle Categories: ,

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A woman I know has an arrangement with a wealthy older man. When he calls, she dolls herself up and goes—well, not running because of his penchant for super high heels, but you get the idea.This has been going on for more than four years. Other than sex, their worlds never meet. He is a businessman who flies all over the world; she is a city girl who flies through designer clothing racks. She is a junk food junkie. He is a health nut who is focused on fiber content. They have no friends in common, no hobbies to share, nothing that ties their lives together except sex.It seems obvious that she is a call girl. Except that one piece of paper hidden away in his home office safe calls her his wife. They both reside at the same address, albeit in different portions of the house.So my question is: […]